Quiz – Rate your relationship building skills

Friends

Do people seem to enjoy being with you, or do they head the other way when you enter the room? Part of building strong relationships is how you show others you care about them.

Rate your relationship skills on a scale of 1 to 5. 

Give yourself a 5 or 4 if your behaviour is consistent with the statement in the first column “Do You”. Or give yourself a 1 or 2 if your behaviour is more consistent with the column “Or Do You”.

For example, if you compliment other people’s accomplishments about half the time give yourself a 3 because it’s somewhere in-between.

5 4 3 2 1

Questions: Do you…

TalkingA.

  • Show concern for other’s needs

or do you

  • Only care about your problems

Score:

B.

  • Listen to others with interest

or do you

  • Ignore what others are saying

Score:

C.

  • Resist being swayed by first impressions

or do you

  • Judge people before actually getting to know them

Score:

D.

  • Frequently compliment other people’s accomplishments

or do you

  • Get upset by other people’s success

Score:

E.

  • Like listening to other people’s ideas

or do you

  • Discourage people from giving opinions different from your own

Score:

F.

  • Appreciate people with a sense of humor

or do you

  • Hate it when other people tell jokes

Score:

G.

  • Let people finish talking before jumping in with your thoughts

or do you

  • Interrupt people frequently while they’re speaking

Score:

H.

  • Use cues to show you are interested in a conversation, e.g. lean in or nod

or do you

  • Look bored and impatient when someone else is talking

Score:

 

Total Score:                                               

What your score means

Fishing

  • A score of 30 or above: You know how to make other people feel appreciated in your presence.
  • A score of 20 or lower: People may feel that you have no interest in them or that you don’t respect them. The next time you’re around other people, focus on your behavior in those areas where you gave yourself a low score. What specific actions or attitudes can you change to give others the feeling you’re interested in what they have to say.

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