Age, fashion and being comfortable in your own skin

Age and fashion

I often wonder about the age limit some people put on what women and men wear.  I’ve heard that in your 20s, you shouldn’t wear anything that ages you. By the time you’re in your 30s, women shouldn’t wear miniskirts and men shouldn’t dress in ripped jeans. It goes further as ages increase. I think that we need to do away with ancient notions about what people can and can’t do at a certain age. Ageism, or most kinds of “isms” bothers me on many fronts, and fashion is one of them.

I think I’m on a bit of an age rant today. My best friend Carrie and I are gearing up for our first baseball show tomorrow (well not really gearing up since we’re winging it!) and it reminded me of a post-season Toronto Blue Jay’s game we attended last June. A group of men kept calling us “girls” and they meant it derogatorily. I ceased being a girl once I became a teenager, and that was a while ago!

Sorry, rant over!


Me and my bestie Carrie at the Canadian Arts and Fashion awards last night

With the trend of geometrics and bold patterns, Onzie designer Kimberly Swarth had commented:

“I think if you’re in your 50s and 60s, it’s a bit of a risk to put yourself out there and wear something very vibrant that makes a statement. You can start with a geometric print or stick to black, white, and gray and then move into brighter colors as you get more comfortable with it.”

I’m not sure why it’s a risk to put yourself out there if you’re comfortable with it. But that’s just my opinion. I think it’s more important for people to be content with who they are at any age and play up what they want. If my legs look good, I’ll be wearing minis when I’m 80 (I assume by then I will like the way they look and finally wear one without high boots).

I find something healing and liberating about not caring too much what people think about what I wear.  And I honestly don’t. I dress for me. If I don’t like what I’m in or if I’m uncomfortable, I don’t feel good.

My main self-esteem tip is:

Don’t try to live up to someone else’s ideal. You may find it difficult to maintain a positive self-image if you always try to live up to someone else’s vision of what you should be.

Doing this means you can wear and look any way you want as long as it makes you happy and you’re not hurting anyone.

Aldo in Spain last year

Two examples of celebrities that get a lot of hate for dressing too young are Madonna and Johnny Depp. Well, Madonna even more. I personally wouldn’t dress the way she does, but I never did at any age. Johnny Depp’s look is not my taste either but he’s been doing it forever so is obviously comfortable with it.

Being as non-judgmental as possible is one of the qualities I hold in high regard. So it’s hard for me to understand why people are so outraged by what others wear as long as it doesn’t break dress code rules (for example, no cutoffs jeans in the office, or no shirts or shoes in a restaurant).

What are your thoughts? Do you think that people should stop wearing certain things once they hit a particular age?

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  1. Great post! I’m a middle aged woman, and I always crack up when I see women my age trying to look like they are in their 20’s. I certainly don’t look like a frump, but I know my limitations. I just want to look good for my age.


  2. Omg Samantha – YOU are someone that I look up to. I really hope and pray that I will look at least half what you look like when I’m your age. You are so beautiful, wise, and inspiring. I especially love the confidence that you display. Thanks for being such a great role model! xoxo Stephanie

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  3. Well I think you know what I am going to say about this. Yes no matter the age as long as you feel comfortable wearing it. But it is important to consider what you are wearing based on where you are going. I know that when I visit some of my family members I have to be a bit more conservative than if I were to go visit friends. It has to do with my culture roots a bit but I prefer to not only feel myself comfortable with what I am wearing but also the people surrounding me if I am going to visit someone in their homes. Hope this helps

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    • Haha! Yes I figured our responses would be similar. My grandmothers were both very strict with dress code. I used to get all sorts of looks and comments when I was dressed simply for summer, like in a maxi dress if it didn’t have sleeves, no matter how hot it was outside (or inside without air conditioning!!) So I get where you’re coming from for sure! Thanks for sharing your story!!

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  4. Great blog Samantha! I agree with you that people should dress for themselves and the most comfortable clothing that suits. “To each his/her own”

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    • Thank you Marko! And thanks for sharing your perspective. I really appreciate you taking the time to read and comment on my posts. Some of them are pretty long, it’s a real effort 🙂 Have a great day!


  5. I used to totally follow that advice until I got into my late 20s and then thought why would I subscribe to something dictated to me and not do my own thing

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  6. Fashion is ultimately about self-expression in my opinion and as you say it’s largely about you and what you are comfortable in. Kirsten I think of twilight broke all the rules when she went on the red carpet with a gown and sneakers and who died? She was keeping it real to herself! So do you and let live!

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    • Thanks so much for commenting!! I have to say that your comment is awesome. I laughed out load with your “…gown and sneakers and who died” words. It’s so true! I remember reading the celebrity blogs when she did and some of the outrage in comments, and I was thinking, what did she do that was so wrong?? She looked comfy and amazing and like you said keeping it real to herself. I really appreciate your comment. Have a wonderful day!!


  7. Great read. When I was young I always felt that as you get older you need to dress your age. But once I hit my twenties and then 30 I changed my mind.I don’t think anyone should make anyone feel bad for dressing however they want. It’s about being happy and comfortable

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  8. Great post and you look gorgeous! I am of the mindset that if you’re happy then it’s no one else’s business. I don’t like the “imposed” style, beauty and hair limits. I will join you (well I will get there way sooner) wearing my minis in my 80s!

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  9. I agree with you Sam! It’s hard and impossible to live up to someone else idle. I always prefer to dress up in my own comfort level. I also heard from my friends earlier that I dress up bit older than my age. It irritated me in the beginning and then later I found that it’s not my concern and I am happy the way I am. So It’s a great article, btwn you look fabulous as always. 🙂 ❤

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    • Thanks so much Malini! And thanks for sharing your story. I have gone back and forth with either dressing older or younger than I am, it’s whatever I see and like I wear. You have a great and positive outlook on everything! And thank you for the compliment 🙂 I appreciate it. Have a wonderful day!

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    • Thanks so much for sharing your experience. It totally makes sense that some things you wore won’t be appealing to you anymore. Especially as styles change (some were so questionable!) Have a wonderful day


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