I often wonder about the age limit some people put on what women and men wear. I’ve heard that in your 20s, you shouldn’t wear anything that ages you. By the time you’re in your 30s, women shouldn’t wear miniskirts and men shouldn’t dress in ripped jeans. It goes further as ages increase. I think that we need to do away with ancient notions about what people can and can’t do at a certain age. Ageism, or most kinds of “isms” bothers me on many fronts, and fashion is one of them.
I think I’m on a bit of an age rant today. My best friend Carrie and I are gearing up for our first baseball show tomorrow (well not really gearing up since we’re winging it!) and it reminded me of a post-season Toronto Blue Jay’s game we attended last June. A group of men kept calling us “girls” and they meant it derogatorily. I ceased being a girl once I became a teenager, and that was a while ago!
Sorry, rant over!
With the trend of geometrics and bold patterns, Onzie designer Kimberly Swarth had commented:
“I think if you’re in your 50s and 60s, it’s a bit of a risk to put yourself out there and wear something very vibrant that makes a statement. You can start with a geometric print or stick to black, white, and gray and then move into brighter colors as you get more comfortable with it.”
I’m not sure why it’s a risk to put yourself out there if you’re comfortable with it. But that’s just my opinion. I think it’s more important for people to be content with who they are at any age and play up what they want. If my legs look good, I’ll be wearing minis when I’m 80 (I assume by then I will like the way they look and finally wear one without high boots).
I find something healing and liberating about not caring too much what people think about what I wear. And I honestly don’t. I dress for me. If I don’t like what I’m in or if I’m uncomfortable, I don’t feel good.
My main self-esteem tip is:
Don’t try to live up to someone else’s ideal. You may find it difficult to maintain a positive self-image if you always try to live up to someone else’s vision of what you should be.
Doing this means you can wear and look any way you want as long as it makes you happy and you’re not hurting anyone.
Two examples of celebrities that get a lot of hate for dressing too young are Madonna and Johnny Depp. Well, Madonna even more. I personally wouldn’t dress the way she does, but I never did at any age. Johnny Depp’s look is not my taste either but he’s been doing it forever so is obviously comfortable with it.
Being as non-judgmental as possible is one of the qualities I hold in high regard. So it’s hard for me to understand why people are so outraged by what others wear as long as it doesn’t break dress code rules (for example, no cutoffs jeans in the office, or no shirts or shoes in a restaurant).
What are your thoughts? Do you think that people should stop wearing certain things once they hit a particular age?