Reign supreme when stress causes you to have a foodstravaganza


I thought I came up with the word foodstravangza when I first used it a couple of months ago but then found out that I wasn’t as clever as I thought, and should have searched for it first. Google really is my friend. So now that I know I’m not the creative super genius I had hoped, I’m still using the word because I like it. And it works here because sometimes your strongest cravings for food happen when you’re under stress, facing difficulties, sad or when you’re bored. To deal with these situations, you may turn to food for comfort, consciously or unconsciously.

In the short term, stress can reduce your appetite. A part of the brain produces a hormone which suppresses it.  But if stress continues, another hormone is released that increases your appetite and may boost motivation in general, including your motivation to eat.

Research has shown that there’s a potential bridge between emotional eating and early memories. For some, their earliest memories connect food with feelings of being loved and nurtured. Often family eating patterns reinforce the connection. Food is sometimes used to reward children for good behavior or to reduce anger or disappointment. Or they’re praised if they eat all the food on their plate. Some adults may continue to feel they must eat whatever’s on their plate when food is given to them, like at a restaurant.

Because food can symbolize love, some people eat to feel better when they are feeling depressed, angry, guilty, anxious or lonely.

Decide to make a change

The key to dealing with feelings is to recognize them. Decide how to cope. While it may seem like reaching for food happens automatically, it only happens if you don’t give yourself any other option. So, if you’ve trained yourself to eat chocolate every time you argue with someone, the next time it happens, you’ll find yourself automatically reaching for chocolate. Only you can make this change by choosing to do something else.

When you feel like eating, pay attention to your mood. Are you angry, lonely or anxious? Before you eat, take a minute to write down exactly how you’re feeling. Is there something specific causing the feeling? What can you do about it?

Some options to deal with feelings

Comforting yourself with food only masks the problem. Make a list of alternatives to eating that might help you cope with the feelings you have when you’re reaching for food. Here are some examples.

Resolve the problem 

If there’s a particular issue that’s causing these feelings, it’s important to work through it, especially if it’s something that’s lingering or keeps recurring. If you’re afraid to deal with the problem, talk to a professional to give you some advice.

Talk to someone

Friends, family and other people you trust can help you through stressful situations and encourage you to meet your goals. They can offer you advice, be your champion, or even just be there for you to listen to you talk. If you don’t feel you have someone to confide in, speak to a professional to help you work through your concerns.


The benefits of physical activity on how you feel, to combat stress, and for overall wellbeing are far too well documented to be ignored. A range of exercises such as strength training, cardio, martial arts, cross-training, Pilates, yoga, and walking can all help. If you can’t get motivated to do anything, see if a friend or family member will go with you, or if it’s in your budget, work with a personal trainer.


Taking time to relax helps to reduce stress, calm you down when you’re angry and can help you think clearly. Think about a time you were in an argument with someone and left the room before things got too heated. Did you calm down once you removed yourself from the situation? Some things you can try to help you relax include meditation, yoga, Tai Chi, deep breathing, reading, taking a bath and doing some stretches.

Do something for yourself

Make it a goal to pamper yourself; do something that you always wanted to do. If you don’t have a lot of time or if it isn’t in your budget, try a workaround that you can do at home. For example, if you’ve always wanted to go the spa, create a spa day at home. My post Feel like a million bucks with this all natural DIY Spastravaganza has instructions.

When you’ve finished making your list of alternatives, make a conscious decision not eat when you’re experiencing your trigger feeling(s) and do something on your list instead.

For other tips or support, ask your healthcare provider.

Do you have any other suggestions for dealing with things without reaching for food?



  1. Very well written Samantha! I agree with your strategies for destressers. I usually try to exercise when I am feeling stressed and sweat out my frustrations. Even though I am not the type to reach out for food when stressed but I do know friends and family that tend to resort to food when feeling stressed out. I will need to use your other tips when I speak to them next time.

    1. Thanks so much Marko! I’m not a food stress eater myself either, it may be because I am eating every 2-3 hours I wouldn’t even notice! That’s great that this might be helpful for some people you know. I appreciate it and I appreciate your comment! Enjoy your day/night!

  2. Today I was at our regular 7 days a week gym for 1 and a half hours. Then down to my trainer for an hour of boxing. I had so much liquid awesome! That’s what he calls sweat on ladies.

    1. Wow that’s amazing Susie!! I can’t clap enough for how great that is. I like the term liquid awesome! I’m going to have to use it one day 🙂 . Thanks for that inspiration. You’ve motivated some extra movement in me when I workout tomorrow!!

  3. Excellent article Sam. I am fortunate enough to say that I don’t stress eat but I know some of my family members will find this helpful. Yes working out is the best remedy based on my experience. Thanks so much for sharing.

    1. Thanks so much Rudina! I am lucky too, it might be because I eat every few hours anyway that it never has to come up 🙂 That’s great that it might be beneficial for some people you know. Thanks also for sharing what works for you!!

  4. This is great info! Thanks for sharing the background to stress and how it works with food. I find that so interesting. The tips are great too. I like the idea of writing down what things happen when I’m reaching for food to see if I can change it. Amazing post

  5. I found this so interesting. I never thought about a link to childhood as to why we might reach for food.But I do feel bad if I don’t eat everything at a restaurant or at someone’s house, even if the portion is too big. Thanks for sharing this great post!

  6. This gives a depth I hadn’t thought about, going back to childhood. I do think I tend to eat a bit more or worse when I’m stressed. Very interesting post thanks for sharing.

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