Confidence

Believe it’s going to be a sunshiny day! Qualities for being your best.

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Cancun, Mexico

I woke up this morning (with less than five hours sleep again!) to a kind of gloomy looking morning. But as usual, I had a song running through my head, Sunshine, lollipops and rainbows. Unfortunately, these are the only lyrics I know, and I’m not sure how it got into my head. However, when I looked at the sky again, I saw the sun shining a bright yellow, and it made me smile.  Am I the world’s most annoying person to be around? It’s possible! But I do know that I am very positive, and I believe in myself. And these are two of the qualities for being your best.

We’re all unique; we have our experiences and see the world differently from one another. Because of this, there are different qualities we can have that help us be our best based on our personal circumstances. However, studies have shown that there are standard features held by successful people. See how many of them you have, and if there are areas you can make improvements.

1.Self-Esteem
Everyone enjoys compliments. But when you have good self-esteem you know your value and don’t always need praise from people, or for others to tell you that you’re worthwhile. You already know it. Believe in yourself.

Do you have enough self-esteem or do you need others to give you compliments to know how much you’re worth?

2.Self-Awareness
You may have feelings or do things that sometimes seem unreasonable, but instead of rejecting them, it’s important to be aware of who you are, including your qualities, feelings, and behaviors. Acknowledge who you are without judging yourself as good or bad.

Are you aware of your qualities, feelings, and behaviors, and if so, do you let it be or do you judge yourself?

3.Flexibility
The ability to adapt to situations or to deal with a situation that is changing is another quality for being your best. You’re going to experience change throughout your life. From time-to-time, you’re also going to have to change how you think or do things based on particular situations.

Are you willing to make changes or compromises, or do you stick to what you know?

4.Positivity

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Distillery District, Toronto

Positive people have an optimistic outlook on life. By being more positive, you can begin to see life as filled with possibilities and solutions instead of problems. You view life as complex but filled with many opportunities.

Do you take hopeful approaches to the things you do, or do you start something thinking you’re going to fail?

5.Ability to accept mistakes
You’re bound to make mistakes; everyone does. It’s important that you recognize them as mistakes and not as failings, and admit to them when they happen.

Do you accept your mistakes, or do you always have to be right?

6.Ability to take responsibility
It’s natural to make excuses once in a while for the things that you do or for some of your choices, most people do. But taking responsibility for your actions and the choices you make instead of blaming others is another quality for being your best.

Do you accept responsibility for what you do or the choices you make?

7.Ability to set realistic expectations
It’s important to set goals for yourself, personally and professionally. It’s also important to be realistic about what you can accomplish and to redefine your goals when you find that your initial expectations are too high or too low. You should also do this when you set expectations for other people. Be realistic about what they can accomplish and reset your expectations if they can’t meet it, without judgment.

Do you expect too much of yourself? Do you expect too much of other people?

8.Ability to handle life’s challenges

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Chihuly Exhibit, Toronto

Another quality is the capacity to handle life’s challenges. You may experience temporary setbacks or life changing events. It takes some time to adjust but using your skills and resources can help you work through temporary and longer-term challenges.

 

How well do you handle the challenges you’ve faced?

9.Ability to ask for help
Sometimes it may be hard to admit that you can’t figure something out or deal with an issue by yourself but it’s crucial to ask for and get help if you need it.

Do you ask others for help when you need it? Do you know who you can turn to if you do need assistance?

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My sister’s wedding ceremony

I know I can work on accepting my mistakes better and setting lower expectations for myself. Either that, or I’m not as self-aware as I think, and there are more!

How many of these eight qualities do you feel you have, and how many do you think can be improved? If you’re unsure, ask someone close to you to help you go through the list.

If you feel you can be more positive, read my post Positivity is contagious – pass it on for tips.

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  1. Brilliant post Sam. I think I have a bit of all eight qualities but I’m working on becoming more self aware of who I am. I couldn’t have done it without the help of a psychologist this past summer. Since then, I have been able to embrace what I have in front of me and deal with my feelings better. I am most certainly a positive, flexible person and I take responsibility and not afraid to admit mistakes. I’m not afraid to seek for help when needed.

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    • Thank you very much!! I really do believe psychologists can help people figure out a lot about themselves (and I’m not just saying this because it’s my background!). I’m really glad you had a positive experience with yours, and that you are willing to talk about it for others to know that it was helpful.

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  2. Being positive gets me through my life. Len had a bad night, so of course I did. You can’t let it beat you. Didn’t go to the gym this morning, but going shortly, and I will beat the hell out of the punch bags at the gym. I will feel great.

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  3. Thank you Samantha for sharing these tips! I have one quote that I use to remind myself when I am having a bad day or being self-critical. It’s “Be positive, Think positive”. It sure helps.

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  4. Well written! All of these qualities are so important in life! To me I feel like I may do better with some of these qualities than others but it depends on the day I believe I’m having! One thing I know o really need to work on is accepting my past mistakes and moving forward from them rather than having them weigh me down. I feel like I could use a little work in each category but definitely accepting mistakes is a big one!

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    • Thanks so much! I agree about different qualities pop up more on different days. I’m the same way. I really have to get better at not letting mistakes get to me.It’s my focus this year. Thanks for sharing your story! I hope you have a wonderful day!

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